Many of us are time poor. We have long commutes, jobs that spill into our homes, children, housework, life stuff. This can result in our own wellbeing sliding down the to-do list.
Lately, I’ve seen wellbeing coaches and so-called thought leaders talking about taking time out to do nothing and just be, their hour a day mediation practice, going off the grid and back to nature. I get that this might well be good stuff for wellbeing….. but some of us just don’t have the ability even if we have the desire. (If anyone has any ideas about how you can just be when you have two young children running around I am listening).
For some of us when it comes to our wellbeing, it is about fitting in what we can, when we can.
And here’s the good bit. All movement counts.
You’ve seen the advice I’m sure, about taking the stairs instead of the lift, walking instead of getting the bus to up your step count, standing up to take a phone call….. but all these small activities add up. Have a walking meeting. Walk round the block at lunchtime. Move your body.
You don’t have to join a gym. You don’t have to run 10K. You just have to move. As much as you can, when you can. This is enough. You are enough. Even if you aren’t living the perfect, Insta ready, wellness guru lifestyle.
Build it in. We follow habits and routines. So if you normally take the lift, you will take the lift, unless you stop and think to take the stairs. Take a moment to reflect. Where could you build in a little more movement into your day?
Move in the moment.
I don’t have any willpower.
Or so someone said to me recently.
Like it’s a thing that you are lucky enough to be born with. Something that can be big or small, present or not. In your DNA.
Newsflash. It’s not your willpower. It’s you.
When we think that is it our willpower that is driving us, we surrender control. We other it.
It’s not me don’t you know. It’s my willpower. It is a cognitive convenience.
Instead of willpower, think instead about choice.
If you eat the chocolate, it isn’t because you have no willpower, some malign force conspiring against you.
It is because you choose to eat it.
Only by owning our choices and recognising that they are ours and that we do have control over them, can we truly take responsibility.
It starts with you.
What are your daily wellbeing practices?
This question appeared in my twitter timeline this morning. The tweet has long gone….. the thought remains.
I aim to do something that contributes to my wellbeing every day. It’s a deliberate thing for me; it helps me focus, keep it top of mind.
Wherever possible, that daily practice is about exercise, because this is the thing that for me, more than everything else, makes me feel awesome. Exercise contributes not only to my physical health but my mental health too.
This might be a class, some weights, a run or a bike ride. It’s the movement that matters. When work or life stuff gets in the way, I will replace exercise with something else. Get my steps in, walk rather than getting the bus, make some healthy eating choices, have a long hot soak in the bath (posh bath oils, of course).
Self-care isn’t selfish. I am responsible for my wellbeing. Me. No-one else. It shouldn’t be something that I do when I think about it or when I can find the time. Wellbeing needs to be deliberate. It needs to be a practice and a priority.
What are your daily practices?
And if you don’t have any….. maybe it’s time to begin.