At the weekend I clicked onto an article that appeared in my Twitter timeline. I knew I shouldn’t have. I knew it was clickbait of the worst kind.
But I was curious.
What were the eight habits very successful woman do on a Sunday?
It was Sunday. I had’t had a very productive day to be honest. There had been a lie in, quite a lot of toast, and some horizontal style lying down on the sofa in front of the tv. Perhaps I would be more successful, evening winning at life, if I adopted some of these habits as yet unknown to me.
This was one of them:
Another suggested setting some formal goals for the week.
All the eight tips were all a bit like this.
My mood after reading it?
The same day, there was an article on Twitter about the new trend for smaller nipples, and how there is now cosmetic surgery available to help you attain such a thing, should it be required.
This is what I have learned in the last few years.
There is always a list.
Someone with helpful advice.
Some so-called ideal to live up to.
How thin we have to be. How fit. The size of our thigh gap. How many yoga classes we can fit in every week. Whether we have been mindful or meditated. Have we food prepped for the week?
Not in my house. Not unless you count the weekly Tesco Big Shop.
My click free advice is this.
Give yourself a break.
There is no list.
There are no eight things to make you successful. Or 5, or 10 or 20.
There are only your things.
Things that make you successful. Or happy.
If you want to spend Sunday in the gym, then go. Good on ya. I’d come with you but there are three back to back episodes of Columbo on 5USA.
If you want to food prep, organise your sock draw, have a digital detox or plan your schedule for the week to avoid any nasty suprises, then fill your boots.
Alternatively, if you want to spend your Sunday chilling out and pretending that the ironing pile isn’t like the north face of the Eiger then you do just that.
There is plenty to feel bad about already. If you read any women’s magazine lately you’d be forgiven for thinking that unless you are thinner / have shinier hair / tiny nipples/ wear expensive designer yoga pants / only eat nutritionally balanced cardboard then you are a failure in life. Ditto any internet articles that start with a number.
Whether we are talking weight loss, fitness or just how to spend your Sunday, no one can or should tell you how to do it.
Other than yourself.